First look. pros and cons
Planning a wedding involves a myriad of decisions – budget considerations, guest lists, and the overall theme or style. While many choices are tied to finances, the question of whether to have a first look isn’t necessarily about money. There are so many opinions on first looks, the pros and cons of having one or not. This might leave you feeling a little bit on the fence about the idea. That’s why I’ve written this article to help you decide if having a first look is something to consider for your wedding.
In this article, we’ll look at everything you need to know about a first look. Including why they can be a great choice and alternative ideas if you decide to not have one. I’ll also share my perspective as a photographer, offering insights you may not have considered.
Should I have a first look at my wedding?
To answer the question of whether you should have a first look at your wedding. First, we need to define what a first look is. A “first look” means that couples intentionally arrange a moment to see each other before the official ceremony kicks off. During this private time, couples might opt to share personal vows, exchange gifts, capture portrait photos before the ceremony, or a combination of all of these.
A first look calms the nerves
I find that so many couples say their first look served as a remedy for the wedding day jitters. It offers a moment of solace before the ceremony. Take a moment to contemplate your likely emotions during this time. Are you someone who feels nervous in the spotlight? Does your partner bring a soothing presence to your excitement? If so, a first look might be the perfect choice for you. But also, the private nature of this moment allows for a more profound expression of emotions.
First Look With Photos Before the Ceremony Gives You More Time Together
You’ve likely heard the advice to savour every moment of your wedding day because it zooms by – and it’s spot on. That’s why some couples opt for a first look with photos before the ceremony – it adds precious extra time to your special day. On average, a first look can gift you at least 30 minutes to 1 hour extra with your partner. This means you get to fully enjoy mingling with your guests during the cocktail hour and reception without missing a beat. But there are cons to this that you may not have thought about. And it can significantly impact your photos. So please consider these cons carefully below:
Alternatives to a first look
- Exchange letters – Keep it simple and sweet – try expressing your feelings through a letter to your partner. Arrange to meet back-to-back or at a cozy corner of your venue to share these heartfelt letters. And hey, if you’re up for it, you can even take a moment to recite your vows alone during this special time. It’s all about making it uniquely yours!
- First touch – Are you all about that “touch” love language? If a comforting hug from your partner is what you need to soothe those nerves, but you’re not ready to reveal yourselves, think about using a blindfold. Your photographer or coordinator can step in to create that perfect moment for you.
A first look or first touch can be such a special and intimate time between you both on the wedding day. It’s definitely not for everyone but it’s something to consider
The Pros & Cons of doing photos after a first look
Doing all your portraits after a first look can be a brilliant idea. But like most things in wedding planning, there are a few important layers to consider—especially if you’re aiming for the kind of photos that feel like you.
Let’s start with the upside: scheduling portraits before the ceremony means you can head straight into the celebrations afterward. More time with your guests, more breathing room post-ceremony, and the peace of mind knowing your couple photos are already sorted.
But, there are a few things worth thinking through first.
For starters, the light. Midday sun especially in summer, can be pretty unforgiving. Not ideal when you’re investing in photos you’ll cherish forever. Then there’s the dress. Many brides understandably want to keep it pristine before walking down the aisle, which might limit your movement, locations, or how relaxed you feel during the shoot.
Here’s what I’ve found works best, based on photographing hundreds of weddings:
A first look, or even a first touch, can be a beautiful emotional moment to share. But when it comes to portraits, doing them after the ceremony often gives you more freedom. You’re usually more relaxed, the lighting is better, and you’re less worried about keeping your dress spotless. We also get more variety in your photos, because you’re not confined to shaded or indoor spaces or worried that guests might see you during the shoot.
TL;DR? If you’re considering a first look, amazing. Just don’t feel locked into doing all your portraits before the ceremony. Sometimes the best photos happen when the pressure’s off, the light’s a little kinder, and you’ve had a moment to just be.
Whether you decide to embrace a first look or not, your wedding day promises to overflow with emotion and happiness. The first look is just one of the many wonderful wedding traditions you might consider for your big day.
And speaking of capturing those sentimental moments, having a skilled photographer (wink wink) and/or videographer by your side is key! As someone who loves immortalising these heartfelt moments, having professionals who know how to capture these moments quickly and efficiently is key. The last thing you need is a first-look moment to feel forced, staged, and non-authentic. There’s a fine line between genuine and forced.
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